Hi, it’s me again. My name is appuh and this is my blog. As I told you before, "I know
everything!" and the sooner you le believe me the better it will go for
you. Now that that’s out of the way. My topic for this week involves a puzzle that
has been bothering my auntie and I'm sure many of you women out there for many
years. I heard her stressing over this
and I finally had to step in and set her straight.
The question
involves the reason husbands won't do anything the wife asks them to do. I'm sure many of you wives have the same
question. It's quite simple. Come closer and I'll tell you.
The reason they
don't do anything you ask is because they love you.
Now, before you close
out this link think about it. They don't
do what you request, again and again and usually quite forcefully, is because
they love you.
Let me explain
more. Many wives are now a part of the
work force, in other words- working moms.
You put in a hard day and all you want is a little cooperation and help when
you finally get home. Now, and just for
the sake of demonstrational purposes, let's pick an occupation to make my
explanation more real. Let's say for instance, and just picking this out of thin
air.... you are a school teacher and your husband is a lower level office
worker.
We know teacher's
day doesn't end when the bell rings. They still need to write lesson plan,
grade papers and now they are going to be required to write SLO (Student
Learning Objectives) ai yi yi... And if
that isn't enough many of them serve as coaches. Any of these will to make a person gray. In fact, my auntie swears that she didn't have
gray hair until she started teaching.
Anyway... you have all this work
to do and unless you want to be on your job from 4 AM to 9PM, you have to bring
the work home with you.
So, you arrive
home, usually after picking up the kids that hubby forget to get, and after going
to the grocery store, because you are the only one who has the knowledge on how
to get chicken or hamburger or whatever, and you see hubby on the computer -which
is funny because all he does is complain about how much time he has to spend on
the computer at work. But, I guess it's different
at home. Anyway.... you enter the house and you see the empty
containers, from his lunch, are on the floor, or the rug that he promised to
vacuum hasn't been, or well you can fill in the blank, that you asked hubby to
help you with hasn't been done. You
aren't very happy and the conversation may go kind like this.....
You: Hey, hum.
Hun: Hey, sweetie.
How was your day?
You: Tiring.
Yours?
Hun: It was alright. Had a lot of work to do at the office, but
I'm happy it's over with.
You: That's funny.
Because I still have quite a bit off work to do. The kids had an assessment and I need to get
that graded and get the grades posted…
Hun:
(silence)
You: Did you wash the dishes? (You know he didn't because
they are still sitting there in the sink.)
Hun: I would have but my back was bothering
me.
(He obviously
missed the three ton book bag stuffed to overflowing of work that is weighing
you down and has been the cause of major back problems for the last few years
or for all the years of your work life.)
You: I understand, but I really need you to help
me.
Hun (indignantly): I don't need you to act like my mom. I'm the man around here....
And on and on it goes. The upshot, you do the dishes, cook the meal,
clean up the kitchen, get the kids ready bathed and ready for bed and then get
your assessments scored and posted.
Finally, you collapse in the bed just in time for the alarm to go off
and do it all again. You may think this
is unfair, that's because you selfishly refuse to see if from hubby's point of
view. Well I have and I have come to the
understanding that he does it because he wants to you to live longer.
He really
does. He is fully and truly convinced
that if he helps you, you will drop dead on the spot. Yes, the shock from seeing that he has actually
completed a task that you have bugged, I mean asked him to do will cause a short-circuit
which will in turn either cause a stroke or a heart attack. That occurrence is something that neither of
you wants to happen.
Your husband
needs you to remain hale and hearty. I
mean, where else is he going to find a housekeeper, cook, maid and laundress
since his mom kicked him out of the house.
Ah love. So I
hope that you can fully appreciate the sacrifices your husband is making for you
and that you need to stop thinking with your narrow-minded worldview and
consider your husband. Especially now
that you know his lack of contribution around the house keeps you in
shape. This way you will have a long
life. Who knows? You’ll probably outlive him, then you can take a nice long
vacation on his life insurance pay out.
Un
That's all for
now. Ta...
